I’m a girl. I’m afraid of going into dark alleys, of being alone with a person of the opposite sex, of those mean-looking men. Things shouldn’t be like this. We should be free to go wherever we want, and to be with whoever we want. However, the woman has always being seen as a submissive figure.
Men abuse us, cat call us, sl*t-shame us. When a boy gets with over ten girls, they consider him a player, when a girl gets with over ten boys, she’s a wh*re. It’s so easy to make someone feel inferior. To make her feel unworthy of anyone’s love.
Warning; spoilers of Bad Romance ahead!
In the relationship of Bad Romance, Gavin was so jealous of Grace, that he made a rule that none of them would touch again a person of the opposite sex. But a relationship, with real love, should be based on trust in each other.
When Grace told her friends what was happening between her boyfriend and her, she said: “I love him, but…”
However, the moment she said but, she went against the sentence before, the “I love him”. She denied her feelings. And his wasn’t love. This was power over someone.
Love isn’t hitting her, love isn’t being possessive of her, love isn’t insulting her.
Love is believing in her, making her happy, seeing her smile every time she sees you.
If you’re having the kind of problems I wrote earlier with the person you think you love, please, go away. Talk to someone, do things you like, feel free, but above all, be happy.
I don’t want to bore you too much, so I will stop here. I will continue on another day, because there are many things we still need to discuss about.
I don’t know many books that centers the problem of abusive relationships or about abuses on a woman. Here in Italy, there are a few female authors who, even though aren’t as famous as Alighieri or Leopardi, wrote beautiful things. One of them, for example, is Alda Merini, who was bipolar, and considered herself diverse.
There are many contemporary authors who are female, too, for example, J.K. Rowling who wrote one of the most read books in the world (even though I haven’t read Harry Potter). Most of the books I read are written by women.
You see, we can be considered useless, or tools, but we can also be as strong as men, as intelligent as men. We can do everything if we want.